Wednesday, November 27, 2024

Fontessa's Journey Home

Fontessa sat in the corner of the dimly lit café, cradling her lukewarm cup of coffee.

The rain tapped lightly on the windowpane, its rhythm mirroring the storm that raged inside her heart.

Once again, she found herself lost in thought, her mind wandering through

the abyrinth of her past—a past tinged with heartache, abandonment, and the hollow echoes

of love that never truly existed.

As a girl, Fontessa had been a dreamer, believing in fairy tales and knights in shining armor. She longed for love, for that perfect connection that would fill the void she felt deep within. With each new relationship, she hoped that this time would be different, that this time a man would see her worth. But one by one, they faded like autumn leaves, leaving her with nothing but bruises—both visible and invisible.

Her heart had been broken more times than she could count. Each disappointment chipped away at her spirit, convincing her that perhaps love was never meant for someone like her. The last relationship had been the hardest to bear, a whirlwind of passion that turned toxic in an instant. He had promised her the world, only to dismantle her piece by piece. The nights he drowned her in guilt and words wrapped in anger echoed in her mind like a haunting refrain.

Fontessa recalled the moment she hit rock bottom. It was a dreary Saturday afternoon. She found herself sitting on the floor of her empty apartment, tears cascading down her cheeks, the world outside shrouded in gray. It was then that she whispered a prayer, her voice trembling, “God, if you’re there, please help me. I can’t do this anymore.”

As the days turned into weeks, she began to rebuild the fragile shards of her life. She attended a local church, where she listened to the stories of redemption and renewal. In those sacred halls, she discovered hope—the kind of hope that her past had attempted to extinguish. She sat in the back pew, leaning into the words of grace that flowed from the pastor’s lips. With every sermon, she felt the weight of her burdens begin to lift, like a fog dissipating under the warm embrace of the sun.

Fontessa started to understand that her journey was not about finding love in the arms of another but about embracing the love that already existed within her—a divine love that was waiting to fill the void she had tried so desperately to fill with fleeting affections. Slowly, she surrendered her past to God, relinquishing her search for validation from men who only sought to hurt her. Instead, she poured her heart into her faith, learning to see herself through the eyes of her Creator.

Days turned into months, and the ache of her past began to soften. Fontessa rediscovered joys long forgotten—she painted, filling canvas after canvas with vibrant colors that danced like her newfound spirit. She volunteered at a local shelter, offering her hand to those who felt just as lost as she once had.

The more she filled her life with the goodness of God, the more she felt His love wrap around her like a warm embrace. Each time the memories of sorrow threatened to drown her, she would remind herself of the truth: that she was not defined by her past, but by the strength she had gained from it. With every day that passed, the shadow of abandonment lessened, giving way to light.

One evening, while worshiping in the quiet of her room, Fontessa felt a profound sense of peace wash over her. It was in that moment she understood that love—true love—was never meant to be found in others but in a relationship with God. She lifted her hands in surrender, tears streaming down her face, releasing the burdens she had carried for so long.

“Thank you, God,” she whispered, her heart full of gratitude. “For loving me when I felt unlovable. For filling the void that I tried to fill on my own.”

As she drifted into a restful sleep that night, she knew that while the scars of her past would always remain, they no longer held the power to define her. Fontessa had found the love she had been searching for all along. And in that realization, she could finally begin to heal.

There was a vibrant dawn awaiting her, a life renewed. Fontessa stepped out into the world with a heart brimming with hope, ready to embrace whatever came next, knowing she was deeply and irrevocably loved.

Saturday, November 23, 2024

When we make the decision to 'let go and let God'




When we make the decision to 'let go and let God' we are giving up the control that we presume to have over a given situation in our life. We are kneeling at the Cross and giving God full reign over our lives. Coming into a mindset that we are not in control but God is can be scary when we don't know Him intimately.

The Bible teaches that God is in control of all things, including evil, and that he has supreme authority and absolute power: 

Ephesians 1:11: "God works all things according to the counsel of his will" 

Hebrews 2:8: God left nothing outside of his control 

Genesis 50:20: Joseph says that God meant evil against him, but God meant it for good 

Deuteronomy 10:14: "To the Lord your God belong heaven and the highest heavens, the earth and all that is in it


When we release control we give it back to GOD so now we can move in peace


Fontessa Parence


Relationship with God



Having a relationship with God means having constant communication with Him – like you would to a person you are in a relationship with. It also means growing in faith as you get to know God deeper through the Bible. The Bible is one of the many ways God speaks to you.

Wednesday, November 20, 2024

God will accept us as we are but, we are required to change

Ephesians 4:20-24 (NIV)

You were taught, with regard to your former way

of life, to put off your old self,

which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude

of your minds; and to put on the new self, created

to be like God in true righteousness and holiness


Psalm 29:11 AMP

11 The Lord will give [unyielding and impenetrable] strength

to His people; the Lord will bless

His people with peace. to accept the things I cannot change; courage to

change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.


God loves and accepts you regardless of your current situation or flaws,

he also expects you to strive for

personal growth and actively work towards positive change in your life,

aligning yourself more closely with his will. 

Key points to remember:

Unconditional love:


God's acceptance is not contingent on your actions

or perfection; he loves you as you are. 


Transformation through grace:

While God accepts you where you are, he also desires t

o work within you to bring about

positive change through his grace. 

Personal responsibility:


Although God's love is unconditional, it doesn't negate

the need for personal effort to grow and improve. 

Romans 12:2: "Do not conform to the pattern

of this world, but be transformed by the


Thursday, April 7, 2022

Falling down the ladder isn't the challenge


Falling sometime is for your own good. You may lose a lot while you are falling but being thankful that you are alive and given a second chance to try again. Sometimes you fall get right back up and operate in the same way and so you are taken back down a road of falling again. 

I was once that young women falling down that ladder straight to the bottom with no one's hand out to catch me. See for me I was one that had to go through it before I listen. I had no one really in my life being put out the home as a young teen left me open to all kinds of attacks that happen to me. So before you judge,well" shall I say never judge because you never know the story. 

I needed my mother and father but because I thought I was grown they decided to treat me as such an give me a lesson in life that almost killed me. Having babies out of wedlock being in relationships with boys. I would like to reach out to my young women. Who is going to teach our young women? I have been through so much and to be alive is a blessing from God. Coming soon many books that I am going to write and I pray that I am at least able to help one young women or even one young man. 

Just because you have fallen doesn't mean you are stuck there. Get up no matter how hard and try again.
It doesn't matter how many times you fall, how many times you failed in the pass, what matters is what you do when you get back up. Don't let the judgement of others stop you from climbing up the ladder. 

Fontessa Parence

Teachable moment

 My Daughters teachable moment. 

She had an assignment at school and she had to write a special essay , not sure what the essay was about. She researched and studied and wrote her paper. She received positive criticism from the teach in regards to changes that needed to be made. This brought my daughter to anger and she came to me upset and was ready to give the teacher a piece of her mind. My daughter explained to me that her teacher felt that she used what she studied and combined it all on the paper and she could tell that it was not her words and requested her to redo the assignment.  My daughter was furious wanting me to say something to the teacher or do something about it. I sat and thought what I was going to say to the teacher and how my daughter felt so belittled about the assignment that she completed. See ''my daughter loves writing and reading just like I do. When she completes anything in life especially school she gives it her all.

I sat and thought about it before I responded. It came to me from God, how to explain to my daughter. Never miss out on a teachable moment. I asked her how did she gather or get Ideas to complete the essay. she said "research" Google. So I asked "did you use some of the material in the essay? She said "yes ", then I went on to explain that you never want to miss a teachable moment. The teacher was not trying to make you feel less than or down your work ,she could of simply given you and F. She responded in what was wrong with the paper so that you can go back and complete the assignment . The teacher not only recognized your work but gave you another chance to show that you can do the assignment with the materials on what needed to be changed about the essay.

I explained to my daughter that is how life works. At times in life we miss the teachable moment because we are into self/flesh responding negatively based off feelings instead of taking the moment to realize that it can be done differently. You can choose to respond negative or positive.  You do have a choice. Never respond when you are angry because you can say and do things that will have a domino effect with consequences that you did not expect. I explained that you must take the opportunity to listen and apply. If you still feel the same way in now the clam atmosphere about the situation now you can respond little more gentle than you would have if you were doing it in anger. Keep God first in all that you do.

Question is, How will you respond to your teachable moment?

Never miss out on a teachable moment.

Fontessa Parence 

High School Diploma at 36 years old


Getting my high school diploma was the happiest and the saddest day of my life. My husband passed away and was not able to see me graduate. 

I set out on a journey attempting to find out how to get my high school diploma. Sharing with my husband Joseph ,ashamed to even tell my husband that I did not graduate high school. God has blessed me to have great jobs yes , I even went back to school to get my medical code and billing certificate and also had some other schooling but I was not satisfied because I knew that in my heart I always wanted to finish school.

My husband did not judge me at all. I got pregnant at a very young age taken out of school. I believe around that time my mother kicked me out of the home, I was a young teen. I started out on such a rough start you will have to buy my book to read more about that. I thought getting my high school diploma was impossible. I was always going through trial and tribulations that I lost focus on myself. I was young ,dumb and stupid. 

Life finally gave me something back that was full of love, joy, peace, kindness, understanding and no judgment. I am talking about my husband. Our relationship was pure an true never met a man like him. My husband was very supportive and pushed me to be great. I was at a peace that I never had before me and my kids were safe. I was in a place that I could pursue and complete without any struggle. 

In order to complete something you must put God first then get to work. 

I made some calls and did some research, nothing, I became frustrated. I did not let that stop me, I was on a mission.  Continued making calls and found this program that let you start where you left off in high school all the way to the 12th grade. Guess what y'all it was free! I did not have to pay anything. Did you hear me free! No loans,no payback just able to focus on school. The same day I called is the same day I started. Instructed to go back to my high school to get my transcripts is all I had to do and I was registered.

I started school the same day. Program was online all on my computer at home. I called my husband he was more excited than me. God is the bomb! I was a straight A student no idea why I thought I was stupid. 

I have reached the end completing the 12th grade. Now it's time to take the big state testing. I had to go to a location for testing, super nervous because I did not want to fail. Finished now I needed to wait on my results. I passed! I passed the state testing but I need some more credits omg! I needed something small to reach my diploma and I was asked to write an essay. I decided to write on determination. Explaining everything going on in my life and why I was so determined on my goal of getting my high school diploma. 

It was not an easy road so many obstacles came my way. I just knew I could not give up. Soon enough a package showed up at my door, with my diploma. I was overwhelmed with excitement because I was proud of myself that I accomplished finishing high school. I was ecstatic about working hard for what I wanted. No matter what obstacle stood in my way I was able to work toward my achievement. 

So get up you can do it and it will happen for you keep God first.

Program is called Graduation Alliance




 

Tuesday, February 15, 2022

Crossing over


 Bridge to the other side may look ugly or scary once it is time to leave behind what was, so that you can step into what was. One step at at time there is not rush go ahead start walking. In order to see that change, in order to move to the next level you must get to the other side. What are you facing now that you feel that you cannot get to the other side? God must be the leader in your walk. 

Crossing over to began,cross over to reach towards the end. The bridge is a journey, there's a process and a learning tool. Where you start is your foundation,but where your heading there is no anticipation. To move towards to where your headed there is change, change in your beginning,mind set, and your endings. Crossing over to the other side means letting go of what is holding you back. To step forward into a new world, the new perspective. Crossing over means preparing for a new beginning. Don't think about it,don't ponder just go,take a step. 

Fontessa parence

Zamarianna William  

Monday, January 24, 2022

No Condemnation bible app

No Condemnation

“There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.” Romans‬ ‭8:1‬ ‭KJV‬‬

There is no condemnation in Christ. When you surrender to Christ, the failures, mistakes, and shortcomings of the past are erased; your sin is completely eradicated through the shed Blood of Jesus Christ. He remembers your sin no more. 

Psalms‬ ‭103:12‬ ‭KJV‬‬ declares, “As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.” When you are in Christ, His Blood separates you from the stain, bondage, and stronghold of sin. His Blood is stronger than your sin. When you repent and turn to God, He sees you through the Blood of His Son — Jesus Christ. “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” Romans‬ ‭8:1‬ ‭NLT‬‬. 

His Blood is more powerful than your condemnation. His Blood is more powerful than the spirit of heaviness. His Blood is more powerful and overcomes every form of depression. His Blood covers you. The Blood of Jesus Christ is more powerful than any weapon that the enemy can form against you. He is your Strong Tower. He is your fortress. His Blood conquers your sin, shortcomings, hang-ups and mistakes. His Love far outweighs the stronghold of your sin. His Love is greater.

“Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans‬ ‭8:35-39‬ ‭KJV‬‬. Be set free from the bondage, torment, and entanglement of the past. 

Monday, January 10, 2022

Bible App fix your thoughts

Fix Your Thoughts 

When we fill our thoughts with the right things, the wrong ones have no room to enter. — Joyce Meyer 

Testing our thoughts and learning to take them captive is a huge part of the mental battle we have with our thoughts. So, when we can learn to do that as a regular practice, we will gain control over our thoughts. 

But what if we chose to be more proactive with our thoughts in order to prevent reacting later on? There will still be thoughts that have to be tested and taken captive, of course. For we are not perfect. We can, however, choose to follow through with Paul’s exhortation in Colossians 3:2 NIV, which says, “Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things.” In setting our minds on “things above” we will have less thoughts that need testing and being taken captive.

When we set our minds, we are striving for something and directing our mind toward a certain thing. This verse says we shouldn’t set our minds on earthly things. Those “earthly things” usually distract us and cause our thoughts to keep us from God’s best. 

There are plenty of things we see every day that are out of our control. But, much of what we see can be prevented. What we put in front of our eyes is a big deal. If you feel that you have too many toxic thoughts, what is it that could be causing them? Could it be things on TV, social media, or the news? It’s wise to analyze the things we are viewing daily and ask God to show us what would be a good thing to decrease or eliminate altogether. 

Much like we need to watch what we put in front of our eyes, we also need to consider what is going into our ears. What we hear affects our thoughts just as much as what we see. Have you noticed what types of music, books, or podcasts possibly cause toxic thoughts in your mind? Are there things you need to include, not just remove, that will build you up and help create healthy thoughts instead? 

Instead of focusing on and setting our sights on things that could cause toxic thoughts, let’s be proactively mindful of what we choose to put in front of us. When we choose things that honor God and keep us pure in heart, we will have less thoughts to test and take captive. 

Reflect

  • What tends to be your struggle? What you watch or what you listen to?
  • List the biggest thing you need to eliminate from what you normally watch or listen to. Chances are you already know what that is. Give it up for 21 days and see what a difference you see in your thought life.

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