Falling down the ladder isn't the challenge

Falling sometime is for your own good. You may lose a lot while you are falling but being thankful that you are alive and given a second chance to try again. Sometimes you fall get right back up and operate in the same way and so you are taken back down a road of falling again. 

I was once that young women falling down that ladder straight to the bottom with no one's hand out to catch me. See for me I was one that had to go through it before I listen. I had no one really in my life being put out the home as a young teen left me open to all kinds of attacks that happen to me. So before you judge,well" shall I say never judge because you never know the story. 

I needed my mother and father but because I thought I was grown they decided to treat me as such an give me a lesson in life that almost killed me. Having babies out of wedlock being in relationships with boys. I would like to reach out to my young women. Who is going to teach our young women? I have been through so much and to be alive is a blessing from God. Coming soon many books that I am going to write and I pray that I am at least able to help one young women or even one young man. 

Just because you have fallen doesn't mean you are stuck there. Get up no matter how hard and try again.

It doesn't matter how many times you fall, how many times you failed in the pass, what matters is what you do when you get back up. Don't let the judgement of others stop you from climbing up the ladder. 

Fontessa Parence

Teachable moment

 My Daughters teachable moment. 

She had an assignment at school and she had to write a special essay , not sure what the essay was about. She researched and studied and wrote her paper. She received positive criticism from the teach in regards to changes that needed to be made. This brought my daughter to anger and she came to me upset and was ready to give the teacher a piece of her mind. My daughter explained to me that her teacher felt that she used what she studied and combined it all on the paper and she could tell that it was not her words and requested her to redo the assignment.  My daughter was furious wanting me to say something to the teacher or do something about it. I sat and thought what I was going to say to the teacher and how my daughter felt so belittled about the assignment that she completed. See ''my daughter loves writing and reading just like I do. When she completes anything in life especially school she gives it her all.

I sat and thought about it before I responded. It came to me from God, how to explain to my daughter. Never miss out on a teachable moment. I asked her how did she gather or get Ideas to complete the essay. she said "research" Google. So I asked "did you use some of the material in the essay? She said "yes ", then I went on to explain that you never want to miss a teachable moment. The teacher was not trying to make you feel less than or down your work ,she could of simply given you and F. She responded in what was wrong with the paper so that you can go back and complete the assignment . The teacher not only recognized your work but gave you another chance to show that you can do the assignment with the materials on what needed to be changed about the essay.

I explained to my daughter that is how life works. At times in life we miss the teachable moment because we are into self/flesh responding negatively based off feelings instead of taking the moment to realize that it can be done differently. You can choose to respond negative or positive.  You do have a choice. Never respond when you are angry because you can say and do things that will have a domino effect with consequences that you did not expect. I explained that you must take the opportunity to listen and apply. If you still feel the same way in now the clam atmosphere about the situation now you can respond little more gentle than you would have if you were doing it in anger. Keep God first in all that you do.

Question is, How will you respond to your teachable moment?

Never miss out on a teachable moment.

Fontessa Parence 

High School Diploma at 36 years old

Getting my high school diploma was the happiest and the saddest day of my life. My husband passed away and was not able to see me graduate. 

I set out on a journey attempting to find out how to get my high school diploma. Sharing with my husband Joseph ,ashamed to even tell my husband that I did not graduate high school. God has blessed me to have great jobs yes , I even went back to school to get my medical code and billing certificate and also had some other schooling but I was not satisfied because I knew that in my heart I always wanted to finish school.

My husband did not judge me at all. I got pregnant at a very young age taken out of school. I believe around that time my mother kicked me out of the home, I was a young teen. I started out on such a rough start you will have to buy my book to read more about that. I thought getting my high school diploma was impossible. I was always going through trial and tribulations that I lost focus on myself. I was young ,dumb and stupid. 

Life finally gave me something back that was full of love, joy, peace, kindness, understanding and no judgment. I am talking about my husband. Our relationship was pure an true never met a man like him. My husband was very supportive and pushed me to be great. I was at a peace that I never had before me and my kids were safe. I was in a place that I could pursue and complete without any struggle. 

In order to complete something you must put God first then get to work. 

I made some calls and did some research, nothing, I became frustrated. I did not let that stop me, I was on a mission.  Continued making calls and found this program that let you start where you left off in high school all the way to the 12th grade. Guess what y'all it was free! I did not have to pay anything. Did you hear me free! No loans,no payback just able to focus on school. The same day I called is the same day I started. Instructed to go back to my high school to get my transcripts is all I had to do and I was registered.

I started school the same day. Program was online all on my computer at home. I called my husband he was more excited than me. God is the bomb! I was a straight A student no idea why I thought I was stupid. 

I have reached the end completing the 12th grade. Now it's time to take the big state testing. I had to go to a location for testing, super nervous because I did not want to fail. Finished now I needed to wait on my results. I passed! I passed the state testing but I need some more credits omg! I needed something small to reach my diploma and I was asked to write an essay. I decided to write on determination. Explaining everything going on in my life and why I was so determined on my goal of getting my high school diploma. 

It was not an easy road so many obstacles came my way. I just knew I could not give up. Soon enough a package showed up at my door, with my diploma. I was overwhelmed with excitement because I was proud of myself that I accomplished finishing high school. I was ecstatic about working hard for what I wanted. No matter what obstacle stood in my way I was able to work toward my achievement. 

So get up you can do it and it will happen for you keep God first.

Program is called Graduation Alliance